This is a devastating self report. People are more complicated than their bodies, but I guess being conventionally attractive is enough to be happy from your PoV.
This is a conversation about attraction. Self-esteem in this context means body-image.
It absolutely is not, but you are reducing it to that. Read what OP is saying, she is looking for a relationship but is having trouble iniaiting. I mean come on, she calls herself beautiful, yet somehow you read shy as body image thing? That’s just looking skin deep.
Thanks for contributing nothing to the conversation but insults. I’m sure there’s a forum somewhere for teenagers to practise zingers, but this isn’t the place.
I’ve sadly seen some attractive people grow up with completely warped senses of reality purely because of how others have treated them. Never had to use their brain once to get anything, sadly they can lack really basic people skills as they get older.
It’s sad because some don’t understand that they’ve been handed things all their life without having to ask so don’t understand when they get older and suddenly have to make an effort.
Obviously this isn’t every attractive person at all but the problem seems unique to those that are/were attractive. The entitlement and lack of respect for others time and effort is baffling for 30/40 year olds.
Maybe you misunderstood…? I didn’t say attractive people can’t have self-esteem issues. I’m saying people with self-esteem issues generally don’t say “I’m a beautiful person”. They generally say “I’m ugly and unlovable”.
Something just isn’t adding up, here.
This is a devastating self report. People are more complicated than their bodies, but I guess being conventionally attractive is enough to be happy from your PoV.
I said and implied nothing about my thoughts or feelings.
Thanks for stating the obvious.
Nope. I never even mentioned happiness. This is a conversation about attraction. Self-esteem in this context means body-image.
It absolutely is not, but you are reducing it to that. Read what OP is saying, she is looking for a relationship but is having trouble iniaiting. I mean come on, she calls herself beautiful, yet somehow you read shy as body image thing? That’s just looking skin deep.
Literally the first 4 words of the post:
I’m not reading between the lines, I’m reading the words themselves. Don’t call me shallow just because I’m not trying to do SCUBA in a puddle.
jesus you have such a douchey reddit attitude
Thanks for contributing nothing to the conversation but insults. I’m sure there’s a forum somewhere for teenagers to practise zingers, but this isn’t the place.
While I get what you’re saying, attractive people are treated better simply by being attractive.
They also can get away with a lot of terrible behavior simply by being attractive.
And the younger you understand that, the better.
I’ve sadly seen some attractive people grow up with completely warped senses of reality purely because of how others have treated them. Never had to use their brain once to get anything, sadly they can lack really basic people skills as they get older.
It’s sad because some don’t understand that they’ve been handed things all their life without having to ask so don’t understand when they get older and suddenly have to make an effort.
Obviously this isn’t every attractive person at all but the problem seems unique to those that are/were attractive. The entitlement and lack of respect for others time and effort is baffling for 30/40 year olds.
My wife is very attractive but years of childhood bullying means she has a skewed perception of herself.
Maybe you misunderstood…? I didn’t say attractive people can’t have self-esteem issues. I’m saying people with self-esteem issues generally don’t say “I’m a beautiful person”. They generally say “I’m ugly and unlovable”.
That does make more sense.
My wife, too. Trauma from neglection and other stuff.
Maybe her low self esteem is based on some other perceived shortcoming? Like social skills for example.
Or maybe OP is just making shit up.
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What.
Uhhh somehow this ended up in the wrong thread. Sorry about that. I’ll delete.