Let me guess. People expect you to behave consistently, bipolar disorder prevents you from doing so, you got dumped a few times because the cheerful/moody woman suddenly became moody/cheerful, and now you feel like starting out a relationship is walking on eggs. Is this correct?
If it is, frame it another way - it’s a painful blessing disguised as curse, you’re filtering out the morons who wouldn’t be able to hold into a decent relationship to begin with.
Past that: stop overthinking. At the end of the day this shit boils down to
Show interest.
Check if the other side is interested. If he is, go on; if not, move on.
Get to know each other better. If it’s worth, go on; if not, move on.
Repeat as needed.
I don’t drink alcohol. I don’t go to pubs or bars. The only place I see men is at gyms. I see so many every day. There’s prolonged eye contact, hungry glances, I get scared and look away and continue my workout. This avoidance is becoming unbearable.
Plus if you date lots of people over booze you’ll get a disproportionate amount of alcoholic folks to deal with. (I know from experience, most of my ex-gfs were met over some beer.)
What about jogging in the park? You’re still doing some physical activity and you can capitalise on probably being fit. You’ll find men doing random stuff - walking their dogs, jogging like you, writing, etc. I feel like it would be a tiny bit outside your comfort zone (the gym), but not by much.
I’m addressing mostly OP’s comments across this thread because it’s the stuff that I can actually give advice for, based on life experience; I’m no woman but I’m bipolar, so I wouldn’t be surprised if OP’s experiences in this regard were similar to mine. And if they are, I’m old enough to know shit that worked and shit that did not.
Let me guess. People expect you to behave consistently, bipolar disorder prevents you from doing so, you got dumped a few times because the cheerful/moody woman suddenly became moody/cheerful, and now you feel like starting out a relationship is walking on eggs. Is this correct?
If it is, frame it another way - it’s a painful blessing disguised as curse, you’re filtering out the morons who wouldn’t be able to hold into a decent relationship to begin with.
Past that: stop overthinking. At the end of the day this shit boils down to
Plus if you date lots of people over booze you’ll get a disproportionate amount of alcoholic folks to deal with. (I know from experience, most of my ex-gfs were met over some beer.)
What about jogging in the park? You’re still doing some physical activity and you can capitalise on probably being fit. You’ll find men doing random stuff - walking their dogs, jogging like you, writing, etc. I feel like it would be a tiny bit outside your comfort zone (the gym), but not by much.
Good luck.
Did you even read the post you’re responding to?
I did.
I’m addressing mostly OP’s comments across this thread because it’s the stuff that I can actually give advice for, based on life experience; I’m no woman but I’m bipolar, so I wouldn’t be surprised if OP’s experiences in this regard were similar to mine. And if they are, I’m old enough to know shit that worked and shit that did not.
They were quoting responses the OP has made to other replies in this post.