• Avid Amoeba
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    4021 days ago

    Manliness has always been a scam.

    Source: me having grown up in the Balkans where manliness tends to reign supreme as a life goal

    • Fluffy Kitty Cat
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      1421 days ago

      Manliness is an ideal intentionally placed out of reach. An insecurity to be exploited

      • @krashmo@lemmy.world
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        520 days ago

        Only if your conception of masculinity is stupid. There are plenty of manly role models out there, we’ve just largely decided not to pay them much attention.

        • Captain Aggravated
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          520 days ago

          The manliest man I can think of: Norm Abram. His achievements:

          • Made a living wearing flannel shirts

          • Excellent beard

          • Distinguished service award from the American Academy of Ophthalmology

          • Built a sailboat

          • said “Not roman orgy, roman ogee” on national television and got away with it

        • Fluffy Kitty Cat
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          320 days ago

          If you step out of line with what is considered acceptable (and The most toxic insecure men incent things to be afraid of out of nowhere) you get harshly punished. Learned this the hard way growing up trans

            • Fluffy Kitty Cat
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              320 days ago

              In my experience, transfemme although trans men have had interesting things to say on the topic

              • Avid Amoeba
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                120 days ago

                I guess you got off the hamster wheel at some point. I imagine trans men being faced with this stuff… That’s not to say there’s no toxic stuff on the femme side of things.

                • Fluffy Kitty Cat
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                  420 days ago

                  Oh yeah we got problems on the girl’s side bit at least women aren’t afraid soybeans is gonna take away their masculinity

    • @Laser@feddit.org
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      820 days ago

      It’s stupid on so many levels.

      First off, it implies there is some sort or series of social masculine trait(s) that are in some way desirable. It gets even more stupid when this turns into expectations, like “you’re a man, you should X”.

      It’s kind of sad but not unsurprising that there’s an industry trying to capitalize on the resulting insecurities.

      I think it was a positive aspect of the MGTOW idea to reject these expectations and do your own thing.

          • @SkyezOpen@lemmy.world
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            220 days ago

            Well like the other commenter said, it was ostensibly about guys just focusing on themselves and breaking out of the toxic trait of defining yourself by whoever is on your arm. That in itself is fine, and hell, even helpful. The issue is that it naturally attracted incels trying to be the aloof sigma that’s too cool to bother with silly women.

    • @MintyFresh@lemmy.world
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      320 days ago

      I was always told to be manly was to show up for those that you love. To be reliable and useful on a day to day basis. All this nonsense about dominance and “independence” is just ridiculous.