So first of all, I’m with you.

But would that affect waterproofing at all?

Or suffer my cuuuuurse

Everyone here is recommending a cat. I have almost zero experience with them, but have experience with dogs instead. I live alone tho so I don’t think a dog would be conducive to my lifestyle. I’ve been playing around with the idea of getting a cat and stumbling across this thread isn’t helping me not think about it lol!!

I’m debating googling around right now to see if there’s a place like a shelter or something where I can view some cats lol.

I flinch at that and I don’t like hugs but I’ve actually never been abused lol I’m just a weirdo I guess!

No, I’m not in therapy. I’ve tried it on and off before and not really found it useful. Because either the therapist was just interested in chatting and not giving any sort of useful feedback OR they focus on minor, but easily identifiable issues that aren’t necessarily why I was seeking out therapy.

I think for me, it just doesn’t really work because I don’t have one specific, obvious issue. I’ve known people who have been helped by therapy, but they had one very specific, glaring, obvious problem. One person I know was having near daily panic attacks. Another person I know was assaulted. Another person I know was having hallucinations. So these are all readily identifiable, singular, obvious issues.

I don’t have anything like that and often don’t even know what to say or what to bring up. It understandably makes it difficult for therapists to figure out what to do, and makes the whole thing just not overly beneficial.

Ok this is a stupid question, but am I not supposed to relate with the OP? Is it not just a normal part of being human. I get my most frustrated when I get something “wrong” like the OP describes because I didn’t prevent what I was trying to prevent. It’s not constantly distressing by any means…just when I get an interaction incorrect.

I have been trialing an SSRI for the past several months now. I can’t tell if it has at all affected me or I am just on a less externally stressful streak. I am inclined to believe the latter is the case, but idk.

Yeah idk. From the outside looking in, raising children looks like sustained literal torture over many years. I don’t get it, even if people tell me it’s “fulfilling” or even if people tell me I’m “good with kids”. Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad that there are people out there willing to do it, but I don’t think I’m built for sustained torture. I’d probably off myself.

I have to use a headset all day for work for work. When I have Teams open on my computer, it occasionally decides to completely break my microphone until I close Teams. No idea why the fuck it does that or how Microsoft manages to mess up voice input for a program that uses voice input…

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Yeah…I’ve always found it odd how internet dwellers seem to completely ignore the mentall illness and drug issues that cause and exacerbate much of homelessness.

That’s not to say we shouldn’t be compassionate, but the issue is a hell of a lot more complex than just giving them a house and nothing else.

You’re being down voted, but I feel you. It’s why I picked one of the largest instances when I joined, despite what other Lemmings tend to tell people to do. Picking a small instance is a bad idea because they die out like that. I’ve seen several fairly significant smaller instances die out at this point. I don’t want to wake up and my account suddenly vanished one day because the host forgot about it.

I’m really out of the loop. Why is lemm.ee shutting down? I thought it was one of the more sizeable instances.

I just turned off and uninstalled One Drive when I got Windows 11 and have had zero issues

I relate heavily to the OP. Especially the past couple of days. I always just seem to get in trouble for just existing the wrong way… particularly at work.

What am I supposed to even talk about in therapy? I’ve tried it numerous times over the past several years, and I don’t know what the fuck to say. And then when I do try to say something, the therapist latches onto some simpler and more obvious issue that I don’t care about OR just ignores my concerns altogether.

I think therapy seems to work out better if you have one obvious, specific problem. Like I knew someone who was having panic attacks. Therapy helped her. I knew someone who was hallucinating and cutting herself. Medications combined with therapy helped her.

But if I don’t have the one specific obvious problem, then both myself and therapists seem to get lost and the resulting sessions are ineffective .

Yeah, drama can be pretty fantastic if you’re not the one involved. It’s when you’re involved by the drama that it sucks major ass.

Any time I see Dr. Oz, I immediately disregard anything as snake oil. The man is a terrible human being…preying on the desperate so he can line his pockets with more cash. He was already a very successful surgeon making boatloads of money. How much of a greedy asshole can you be to then start lying to people to get more when you’re already rich?

Lmaoo my coworker always talks about the baby smell too. I find it funny because I have never sniffed a baby hahaha

Thank you very much for sharing your story! I’m sorry to hear about your friend, btw. But I’m glad you got to share your life with them for so long. I’m lucky that I have a really good friend right now too at least! They have a family of their own so it’s not as if we can mutually prioritize each other to the same extent, but that’s ok.

Omg I had the same experience during puberty lol. Even into my late teens and early twenties, my mom would kind of bug me about it. When I still wasn’t taking anyone home, she used to drop hints that it would be ok if I was a lesbian and had a girlfriend lol! Thankfully at this point, people stop bringing it up haha.

Yeah I’m definitely working on trying to get rid of the FOMO at this point in time. I have a lot of great people in my life tbh and I’m trying to branch out and be a bit more social with things that scare me. But even if I do, I’ll never really have the “standard” human experience. Gotta figure out how to eventually be ok with that.

I’m not a spiritual or religious person, myself. I briefly looked into Taoism, but it seems that the westernized idealized version of it isn’t what Taoism necessarily is in reality.

Thanks for your offer to chat! Hope you don’t mind if I’m just giving a long winded response here lol.

I found out about asexuality in my teens. Even today, whenever I approach asexual communities, I find that most of them are filled with very young coming of age people who are so extremely “terminally online” to the point where it makes me a bit uncomfortable. And I’m saying this as someone who is terminally online myself. It’s difficult to explain what I mean and I hope I am not offending other asexuals out there. But it’s refreshing to hear from your perspective, as an asexual in the “real world”, with thoughts, feelings, and experiences based more in reality as opposed to in an online hypersensitive safety zone.

Hope the best for you!

I saw in a patient’s chart recently that they were unable to perform a breast biopsy because her breasts were too small. I was like goddamn.

I don’t think I’ve ever really spoken to an older asexual on the internet before. I know it’s a tangent from the main OP, but do you think you could expand on some things for me?

1. When did you realize that you were asexual? And how did you deal with it considering it’s a relatively new term that wouldn’t have really been spoken of when you were growing up.

2. Do you find your life fulfilling? I have a social need, but not a sexual need, so it makes it frustrating knowing that I need people, but that a relationship with 99% of the population doesn’t make sense. (Yes, you can find other asexuals out there, but we are exceedingly rare and there are not going to be many, if at all, in your same city.)

I’m younger than you, but not so young that my life as a whole is still being figured out or anything. I’m in my 30s and now secure in my career, but still struggle with social things and figuring out what I need for my life to be fulfilling. I’ve likely been a lifelong asexual. I’ve also never had a partner.

Anyway, sorry if that is too much to ask lol, but I was just curious!