Not OP, but i can say 2 years post op it feels weird to think I used to have something there lol

Congratulations Dandelion, so happy for you 😊

If by personal and intimate you meant about bodies or relationships or surgeries or sex or, I mean really anything related to being transfeminine then yeah you can absolutely discuss those things here. Adult content should be labeled as NSFW, the usage of slurs in titles should be avoided, but as long as the rules are being followed thats all that matters.

She will. Haven’t heard her name in 5 months. I honestly think by next election she will be entirely forgotten.

She did later on, claiming that Hermione “could have been black” and that “she never specified her race”. As though being black was so inconsequential that it would go entirely unmentioned through 7 books (when other black characters absolutely did have their race mentioned).

She was already very conservative during her upbringing. Her ‘feminism’ amounted to performative success for affluent women under capitalism. She has never been a progressive. She retconned her characters to minorities while doing literally no work to write the characters as minorities with the experiences of minorities. Feminism to her is an aesthetic.

You have wildly misunderstood what TERFs are. They’re buddies with anti-abortion activists. Politically they are aligned in interests with misogynists. They believe that gender is innate and unchangeable, which is the same thing that misogynists think. They believe that women are and will always be subjugated by men because men are biologically inclined towards rape and are categorically stronger than every single woman. They dont actually seek to change this in any material way. They just dont want to have to be around people they consider disgusting. They want to be upheld by white men the way they were in the 40s. There’s a reason TERFs skew middle class and white.

Fun fact that during the build up to world war 2 a mass exodus of former suffragettes to the side of fascism took place in Britain. Even though fascists wanted to take their right to vote away again. The fascists upheld white British women as the pinnacle of femininity, and upheld them as an ideal in their state of subjugation. This presented a position of privilege over other women. It afforded them status and protection that being a political radical did not.

Not necessarily directly related to TERFs, just wanted to point out that if incentives exist to become a misogynist then some women will take the incentive.

I also experienced extreme bottom dysphoria. It was completely disruptive my whole life. It definitely got worse the longer I was out as trans. There were so many things I wanted to do that I didnt feel like I could. I’m very inclined towards feminine clothes and presentation and I pretty much never could wear anything explicitly fem. I always wore baggy clothes, hoodies and jeans in the middle of summer kinda vibe. It was awful genuinely I hated my body and wanted no one to ever see me. I didnt swim for over a decade. I felt out of place among other women, I felt repulsed with intimacy and avoided it as much as possible. I got misgendered a lot and just sort of accepted it. I was very unhappy most of the time.

I dont have any easy answers. It nearly killed me. I coped badly, to make a long story short. I waited a long time for surgery and getting it saved my life. Its been over 2 years now. I’m almost an entirely different person. Its hard to really summarize all the changes but I actually like who I am today. I love my body in spite of its flaws and I actually feel free to be myself, something I never did before. I’m better adjusted emotionally and much better at managing my mental health. I’m not entirely free of dysphoria now, but bottom dysphoria was far and away the worst for me.

The next 6 months before your surgery date will feel like the longest thing ever and also retrospectively like the blink of an eye. A light at the end of the tunnel exists. I’m very excited for you to get there. Be patient with yourself and focus on getting through each day.

It’s literally robbery. They’re legal thieves. They collect until you’re dead, and they sure as hell aren’t lifting a finger to keep you alive.

What a… grating comment.

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He knows what we say it means, but he is a eugenicist and believes that white people are biologically superior. He co-opts our language because it fuels a media cycle. The fascists love when he co-opts our language. Its all games of confusion and misdirection and redefinement.

They openly deride empathy itself. They only use this language to fuel the media cycle and keep their rabid indoctrinated followers occupied. Its all misdirection. They are hellbent on carrying out their eugenicist fantasies and inevitably they will try to do so.

I wonder how far away we are from bans on hiring racial minorities, women and queer people. Some of the first acts against minorities the Nazis carried out were bans on working for the government and bans on working in education. Eventually the Trumpists will get to that point. Fascists are neither creative nor original. We know what they want and we know what they’re going to do, it’s all a matter of timing now.

It looks about the same as any vagina really. I do have a clitoral hood, but I prefer stimulation over it rather than direct stimulation personally. It can also be stimulated somewhat from the inside.

It feels also about the same as any other vagina lol. Like it’s kinda hard to get much of a specific texture profile from it tbh. Fleshy I suppose.

I had penile inversion vaginoplasty and I self lubricate. My surgeon preserves the bulbourethral glands during the surgery for this reason. Those are the parts that create pre-ejaculate. Which are homologous to the Bartholin’s glands, which help lubricate the vagina for cis women. So yeah if things are heated I do get wet lol.

Having one is pretty normal at this point 2 years post op. It was overall probably the single most incredible event of my entire life and my whole life changed a lot after. I used to suffer a lot from bottom dysphoria. To the point that I struggled to function a lot of the time. Getting surgery was the best choice I’ve ever made for myself and yeah I am extremely happy with the outcome.

I am never getting into a self driving car. I don’t understand why we are investing money into this technology when people can already drive cars on their own, and we should be moving towards robust public transportation systems anyway. A waste of time and resources to… what exactly? Stare at your phone for a few extra minutes a day? Work from home and every city having robust electric transit systems is what the future is supposed to be.

Are you advocating blissful ignorance as a like. Lifestyle? I’m glad that you have enough money and stability to do that lol if you’re poor or marginalized blissful ignorance is not an option if you intend to survive.

Hm. You should bring a lot of comfortable clothes. I honestly kinda wish I had cut my hair before surgery, cause you end up spending a lot of time fairly low energy and in bed. My hair ended up getting super tangled as a result. If youre diligent you could braid it frequently or just get someone else to brush it, but I had like 3 foot long hair so I was not capable of managing it on my own lol. Bring hand and lip cream, hospital/clinic air can be super dry. Bring some stuff to keep you occupied ofc, game consoles or books or shows. The clinic i went to had us all in dorms so I brought headphones to be polite to everyone else staying at the time.

Before hand, I mean for me it was winding off of smoking (almost 2 years since i quit) and trying to get into a healthier eating routine. Cutting back on caffeine and stocking up on low effort meal supplies. Trying to keep calm. Things go very fast once youre there but the build up can be nerve wracking.

After hand, while youre in the hospital they will be instructing you on every little thing. They won’t force you to walk, or at least my clinic only forced me to do it on day 1. But I kept walking every day, usually twice a day for 15 minutes each. Its good to keep yourself moving but also not overdo it.

Once you’re back home do not try to get back into your normal routine. You are off your feet and your are in recovery and you will need help. Crucial that during the first 2 months you spend as much putting minimal strain on your body. You’ll sleep a lot. Get a in bed laptop/meal tray. It will come in handy, or at least it did for me. Download a timers app on your phone early on for timing dilation, pain killers, walks, etc. The first few months feel like forever at first but it goes pretty fast. When you get first home though yeah you really want to rest as much as possible, get lots of fluids and focus on adhering to the routine your surgeon tells you to do.

He protected them from every form of intervention. Without a supportive American government they would not have even had the weapons to do it themselves.

He lived a good life. He saw the zionist project he supported all his life come to full fruition. He just wanted to win the presidency to have had 2 terms, not out of any semblance of anti-fascism or concern for minorities. He just wanted it for the sake of personal achievement.

He will go down in history as the president who failed to do literally anything to stop fascism. He will be remembered for the hundreds of murdered reporters, 10s of thousands of murdered doctors/paramedics/nurses, and the hundreds of thousands of bombs dropped on children in Gaza. His name will be forever connected with the Israeli colonist project and it’s genocidal aims. He, more than anyone else, is why the genocide was able to happen in the first place. He gave them the guns, he gave them the money, he gave them the missiles and war machines and tanks and planes. He protected them from the UN, he protected them from international prosecution, he spread their hoaxes and propaganda on the international stage in front of audiences of millions of people.

I’ll shed no tears when he dies. Dying of cancer is merciful compared with what Israel does to Palestinians. Deaths he has long fought to justify. Good riddance.