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Not wanting to rain on you, but if everyone has an issue with you I’d honestly do an introspection.
If you smell shit everywhere you go, check your shoes.
“If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you’re the asshole.”
- Raylan Givens
Every Old person*
My peers are fine with me. Middle-aged people also seem nice. Its just the very old (like 60+) seem to be mean all the time.
It’s probably because you’re calling people of 60+ ‘very old’, I’d tell you to piss off too! That might feel along way to you now, but age has a funny way of creeping up on you (I’m not ‘that’ old, but closer than you , going by your comments).
But to answer your question more seriously, one reason is likely that we’ve gone from a society that was generally positive & helped each other (in a local sense), to constant negative news via the mass media & social media, & I think it just grinds a lot of people down, especially those that remember the ‘before’ times. But if you focus on the good things in life, often again at a more local level, life can generally be good(ish) for most people (unless you’re being savagely attacked by an oppressive force, as seems to sadly be getting more common around the world 🙁).
I met some of the nicest old people at the protest yesterday. Maybe you just have a bad sample set in your area
They were some of the most inspiring people I met yesterday. It’s great seeing people my parents age that are engaged and want to make the world a better place for their kids and grandkids.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen my grandparents angry in my life.
EDIT: Honestly, my in-person experience with people who are like…70+ is that they’ve been pretty mellow. Maybe they go off and rage in private or something, but hasn’t been where I see it.
My grandparents were chill af too, even if my grandpa was a ‘serious’ man (just a sober and athletic family guy of virtue, which means I still have a long way to go, lol). But, while broke, they were also happily married, only death (shortly) separated them.
Lucky. My grandma would yell at my cat as a proxy of yelling at me 😿
As an old woman myself, I’m sorry to you and your little cat too. Sounds like you got stuck with crappy old losers. I hope you meet other old people who treat you nicer.
I am angry a lot, but it’s because as a kid I thought the world was getting better, more tolerant and caring etc. and instead it keeps getting worse, more fascistic and hateful and filthy and destroyed. Every time we take a step forward we get smacked down backwards about six. It’s exhausting. But we do still have to keep trying to take those positive steps every day.
Some of this is because they’re living with pain. Your body breaks down as you get older. Some of it is Fox News brainwashing.
Don’t forget decades of interacting with toxic aerosols like lead oxide.
Nah it’s not. I’ve been living with chronic back pain every day for 20 years and it hasn’t made me cranky. I have definitely lost some patience with blatant stupidity and what other people think, but my default interaction mode is ‘be chill and get along with everyone’.
I’ve been living with chronic back pain for years as well. And I definitely get short sometimes when I’m in pain. It makes me tired and cranky sometimes and takes its toll. I have asked my family to remind me when I’m acting like a “grumpy old man”.
Sure, in bad moments I get short-tempered like anyone else in pain, I more meant generally speaking. I’m not cranky all the time by any means, even though I hurt all the time.
After my parents retired and had a lot more time to be home and just have Fox News on all the time in the background they defo moved more to the right. They can’t defend their positions without resorting to fox news talking points or “all policies are the same” or “you just have to protect yourself from the government”.
My sister and I are deviated that we’ve lost them to propaganda.
Keep in mind that 51% of voters 65 and older voted for Trump. That percentage for 18- to 29-year-olds is 47%. That gap is very small.
If every interaction you’ve had is bad, look for the common denominator
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Alternatively, you can find purpose in trying to be a little better version of yourself every day.
Or maybe, you should take that criticism and have a fair look at yourself and how you can change for the better, instead of immediately overreacting and trying to be a coward and run from your problems.
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A damn fine roast you threw together there
Lmao that explains so much about them
oh SNAP
Brooooo lmao
I wouldn’t take most ban reasons at face value. He could be a pedo, or could have pointed out a law for clarification and the worst possible motivation was assumed.
Especially when there isn’t a removed comment or anything for context.
You’re going to get banned for pedophilia apology with a reasoned opinion like that one.
Probably.
Now I’m imagining you modlog checking every commenter here lol
Your senior aged family members just seem to suck but we only got a single sentence of detail.
Old people are not universally mean lol. Honestly it seems to me that almost every asshole I knew since a young age was an asshole in their childhood, teens, and adulthood so far. I figure that won’t change. There’s some exceptions, but it seems very hard to change personality.
Yeah, most people tend to approach things from a positive or negative default and time seems to reinforce that unless a very major life experience shakes that up.
Being really old probably sucks. I’d be mad too.
That doesn’t justify being an entitled dickhead.
Some assholes hang around with other assholes because 1) it validates them, 2) it gives them someone to argue with,3) they have no one else because normal people cut them out of their lives
I mean… Have you looked around the world lately? What isn’t rage inducing? Now couple that with your body falling apart and feeling the pain of aging more and more the closer you get to your final days.
It is very hard to be nice when you are in physical pain.
What’s old? I’m 53 and hate pretty much everything I see. I have a Grumpy Bear on my dashboard so we can bitch about other drivers. I’m in near constant pain from a back problem and can’t do very many fun things anymore. And every single day I make every interaction with everyone I come across as pleasnt and fun as I possibly can. I make eye contact and say please and thank you. I tease and joke with everyone I see. Just because I’m a curmudgeonly old fuck doesn’t mean I have to bum other people out. But maybe I’m not old yet.
Sounds like you are old in the right way and also in the inveitable way, there is no number that makes you old in the wrong way nor any number before death that precludes you from filling your heart with fire and fighting for younger more privileged? generations.
Our heart is any age we desire right up to and through our last moment together
For all we know you could be a victim in an abusive family. I’m sorry to see that people are blaming you without further asking about your circumstances.
FWIW I think it’s a bad older-generation thing, to express your affection by criticizing someone and insulting them. I had one older relative tell me that if you wanted someone to know that you loved them, you had to be a little mean to them. There was even a saying “spare the rod and spoil the child” to justify physical punishment.
To be sure, sometimes you need to be direct and critical and rigid, but it should not develop into abuse. If you feel you are in an abusive relationship, please reach out for help.
Older folks can seem more angry than other demographics for a few reasons: pain from physical deterioration, disappointment in their life’s circumstances with fewer/no realistic opportunities to better them, people very close to them dying, worldviews that conflict with the realities of modern life, etc. It depends on the individual but pain and the whole “less unshitty time left on this earth” thing are more commonly experienced in seniors than other demographics.
But this is talking in general - to give you a useful answer, I’d want to know more about your interactions with elderly folks. Only one I saw in this thread was old folks telling you to kill yourself - it’s rare someone cold leads with that unless it’s online (the answer is always living, happily, in spite). What happens before that?
it’s because they are old, and nothing ever got better. everything only got worse. literally everything
this will happen to you too
Sorry about the people jumping you with 0 context. Not everyone here is like that.
All people can be shitty. Sounds like you had the misfortune of running into a bunch of old people who fit the bill.
From what I’ve seen, especially since COVID, is that society has changed beyond their understanding and now a lot of things are strange and scary. Worse, a lot of the skills they should have learned to understand the present day weren’t learned for various reasons, so getting over the hump of understanding is now a lot higher than previous.
Anger is a common reaction to fear and confusion.
