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I cannot answer this question. I am a 40 year old kid, not an adult.
I have lots of time. Other than work, I don’t do anything but play video games, watch videos/movies/shows, and shitpost comments on Lemmy. Got no money to do anything else I would like to do. Ain’t got no friends IRL to do anything with.
Are ya winning, son?
The games? Yes.
At life? No. I’m not even able to get ranked. :(
Ranked isn’t fun, bunch of sweaty players.
Ranked gets ganked. It’s nicer here in the shallows, anyway.
Don’t worry, the game was rigged from the start: it’s mostly all just PayToWin bullshit!
A man cut from the same cloth as I
Samesies!
Hey, now, you’re genuinely appreciated around this here Lemmy place, so don’t go calling us “no friends”. 🥲
Damn, are you me!? But I don’t remember writing this comment…
if you don’t have kids, you should have plenty of time for video games.
If you do have kids that can become harder to justify.
Until the kids grow up a bit and then it can be bonding time. My kids are in early teens now and we have been playing video games together for years now
Yep, especially when you like the same co-op games.
My 7yo and I are playing Sonic 2 on my old Wii. He’s playing tails to get the hang of movement, and loves beating robotnik. Plus I need his help on the half pipe challenges. It’s pretty fun.
Bro, I don’t have kids but I do have a wife and I already feel like I don’t have time. 💀
No kids here. Last night as we were falling asleep my partner said, “I really need to play Counter Strike tomorrow.” I fully respect that.
Blessed be you. I wish personal space wasn’t such a controversial thing inside of a relationship.
It’s not, that’s a you and your partner thing. Healthy relationships have space for independence and personal hobbies in them.
I think my best advice is just to talk about it. Bring up that you want to play more video games, but it’s hard because you want to spend time with your partner, too. I’m sure my feelings were hurt at first, but I realized it wasn’t about me. Make it about you and not about them. Do you have your own space in the house? That is also really helpful.
Where would I ever get time for that? I don’t have kids but I’m genuinely curious. In-between chores, upskilling and work and S.O., I have absolutely zero time to just sit down and game, and even when I do, I have no energy.
I had kids a couple of years ago.
Before having kids I didn’t really have time for “gaming”, but I did lounge around watching TV for a few hours before sleep.
Now with kids it’s pretty much the same dynamic, but that few hours down time is interspersed with tending to the kidlets.
A significant other should not prevent you from enjoying your hobbies.
Most of the people I know who don’t have kids and ‘don’t have time for gaming’ in reality just have a significant other who looks down on gaming and makes them feel bad about it when they do.
Nah my S.O. is down to game and does so more than me because she’s unemployed, but I on the other hand don’t have the time for it.
Same! Only get to Lemmy when I’m on the throne!
The “average adults” in my bubble all complain about not being able to game, but somehow know all about the popular TV shows of the moment. And of course Formula 1 and the many football leagues (world football that is, not ‘American’ hand-egg).
It’s all a matter of priorities.
Also, as my kids are a bit older now, we sometimes game together. My son loves coop Portal and my daughter enjoys it when I play Valheim. She loves watching me explore the game world.
I know what gets me is being too tired to commit to a game mentally after work.
Then the weekends get filled with chores
It won’t get better if you have any kids. I bought Valheim for the casual exploring, but it got a bit more intense than that. :-/
Yeah id be at the bar for hours with ppl whod be like how do you get time to game lmao, like I just don’t goto the bar every night
TBH gaming can be a very reasonably priced hobby too
one of the most, for bang for your buck, depending on the game you buy, but I also have plenty of games I bought and barely touched when I was very into gaming.
Many games people play, like counter-strike, League of Legends etc is all games you can’t pause. That’s really where the problem comes. If you kid wakes up, you have to leave the game, which sucks and even have penalties. So most choose to not play, because of that and watch tv series instead.
I do but I’ve noticed games don’t hold my attention like they used to. Eventually I start to feel like I’m wasting my time and not attending to responsibilities like I should be and its not fun anymore. Sometimes I’m able to ignore that feeling but the game has to be real special. This has also caused a worse problem where I sink lots of money into games hoping I’ll find one that will give me the same joy I used to feel, and sometimes it does. But its over in about a week or 2 and then I lose interest again. I’ve recently started learning gdscript and how to use the godot engine, and am hoping that I can shift my unhealthy habit into a positive hobby that makes me feel happy and productive.
Yeah. Often when I talk to people who say they “don’t have time” I wonder where their time is going. Often to watching TV. Sometimes podcasts. Social media is a big time suck.
But like if you have time to watch all of the office again this year, you had time to play video games.
A friend of mine realized they were just losing hours a day to Instagram. Delete that, and you have time for better hobbies. Play a game. Read a book.
Having children seems like a bigger factor. The only couple I know that has kids still has time. One spends it on DND, and other on TV and simple phone games.
Yep I have a kid and run my own business which is very demanding. I’m always strapped for time and I still find a little bit for gaming here and there. I do have to select for low investment games like rocket league, indie games, etc. I wish I could play WoW all day but that’s a bridge too far.
Depends on how much you wanna sleep every night.
Do I have enough time if I wanna get 8 hours of sleep? No.
Do I have enough time if I sleep 4 hours instead? Yes
Do I game? No, because I tell myself I’m going to go to bed in just few minutes so I don’t have time to start a game, then I get sucked into whatever I’m doing and next thing I know it’s 3am and I still need to shower before bed.
If you got time to browse the internet, you got time to game
Jokes on you I game with one hand and browse the net with the other
Not really. If I play a game until 21:30, I am too stimulated to go to bed at 21:45.
If I browse Lemmy, I can fall asleep with my phone in my hand at 20:00.
You know, you’re absolutely right.
Yes, no kids.
I play videogames with my 9yo daughter every night for 30-45 mins before bed. It started a few years ago with me playing and her watching, but she’s starting to drive these now. I would much rather she plays games rather than watch game streams like most of her friends.
My boomer trait: I cannot stand that kids would rather watch someone else play a game than just play it (unless its some $80 game theu cant afford). HOWEVER I realize, it is actually a great need for them to socialize with people they like and imagine they have friends. So it’s really sad, but I get it.
Yeah that’s how I feel. It’s one thing if it’s just filling a void, but these streamers eventually end up exploiting these kids, so I’ll be relieved if she never gets the appeal of watching streamers.
For Horror Games, I’d rather watch someone else getting scared than actually shit my pants.
I think such activity is not recommended before bed. You seem like you care so maybe move that to a better time
Yeah I need to see if we can find a better time. Currently, after her dinner but before bed works, but may be there’s a better time
Adult here. I have now over 10 years of experience as an adult, although closer to 20 years of experience playing video games.
There are two realizations that are needed to understand the relation of someone in this life style who is also a fan of video games.
First, no I do not have as much time as I used to have to play video games. In school and university times I would easily play over one hour per day on a week day and much more on a weekend. But nowadays, I spend 8 hours per day on a weekdays working on my job, plus a few hours doing house work. So can’t play as much as I could.
But second, I also want to do other things. Nowadays I actually read much more then I used to. I also try to do other hobbies, and try to do social activities much more. I tend to spend more time with other people too. So out of my free time that I would use for video games in the past, I actually allocate that time for other activities.
I still absolutely love video games. They are a part of my life. But I probably play two to four hours per week only. These hours are few but highly meaningful anyway.
I think part of the journey for me to become an adult, to have a job, responsibilities, and such, has also been about broadening what I do, so it doesn’t upset me that I can’t spend so much time on video games, but rather it makes me happy that I have a fuller life.
This response resonates to me. I would also add that after working all day looking at a computer screen and my mind is tired I like to enjoy other activities away from a screen. If I do look at a screen in the evenings, many times I dont want to think about a game or have to make choices for a game character. The times I really enjoy games are on the weekends. I imagine one day being an old man and getting to play video games all day again like I did when I was a child.
OMG! This is exactly what I’m missing.
Thank you so much!
Oh yes definitely. We get way to much screen time. And I also feel the same when I sometimes don’t really want to think too much in the evening. I’ve come to not play certain games I deem a bit too much. Elden Ring comes to mind. I like souls like, and I did play Lies of P recently which I enjoyed. But Elden Ring looks way to long and might be a hard game.
Like anything competing for my time, it has to be something I’m really interested in watching/playing/doing. Too many other things going on to devote time to crappy games, books, or tv shows.
I’m 37 with two young kids. I don’t play as much as I did before marriage and kids, but I still find time. Mainly in the evenings when everyone else has gone to bed (though that’s also time I might put toward other hobbies).
I also have a weekly time set up with some buddies, which is especially great since social time also took a big hit with having kids.
Mate, i did 12 hours overtime last week and still got my game on.
Well earned. o7
Yes, I barely watch any TV and social media is confined to the bus or calm periods at work like now when I have to wait. So at home I have time for video games.
People watch about 3 hours of television a day. Yes, you have time to play video games.
Maybe? I can watch tv while I fold laundry or exercise. I can’t play games and fold laundry at the same time.
Skill issue! Train harder!
yes. especially without kids.
