Throwaway account cause I’m embarrassed. Basically a few days ago I randomly woke up with a hemorrhoid after a couple of days of sudden itching in that area. I thought it’ll pass on its own but it hasn’t. I tried some home remedies I found online like sitz baths but nothing has worked. It’s very uncomfortable and I’m fairly sure I need to see a doctor / get some proper medicine. But I can’t bring myself to tell my parents cause it’s so embarrassing I cringe just thinking about it.
They wiped your ass for years. They’ll live.
Totally. And eventually people get to the age where “embarrassing” medical stuff is so common that it doesn’t even raise an eyebrow. Just be matter of fact about it, if you don’t act like it’s embarrassing then they won’t either.
Seconded. As soon as you hit 40, every other visit to the doctor involves talking about something going wrong below the waist.
Your parents wiped your ass. There’s no reason to be embarrassed about anything.
Just say it quick, like ripping off a bandaid:
“I need to see a doctor about a hemorrhoid that won’t go away.”
It’s not even in the top 1000 worst things kids have to tell parents. If you can’t tell them about a hemorrhoid, how are you ever gonna be able to tell them about the gay prostitute you accidentally knocked unconscious, thought you killed, and then tied up in the basement after they woke up while you were trying to bury them?
If a hemorrhoid is the most embarrassing story you’ve got, you have no reason to be embarrassed.
Exactly. I mean, the first couple of times you might be able to think of an excuse to explain it, but the 3rd or 4th time they catch you, you’re just going to have to come clean
I kinda get your point, but you have to see it this way: Both of them had it themselves almost certainly at some point in their lives. Haemorrhoids are kinda common. But it’s not something you tell your peers about while having a break next to the coffee machine.
Also, don’t be embarrassed about medical issues in front of your parents. If they aren’t complete assholes, they won’t turn this into a show to shame you or something.
You’re far from the first person to ever get hemorrhoids. If my kid came to me with something like this, I’d do anything to help and never tell a soul. Hopefully your parents have a little empathy and will do the same. It’s not weak to ask for help when you need it. Good luck.
Way worse things than embarrassment can potentially result from ignoring medical issues. Accept the temporary embarrassment; keep your health sorted.
I had a high school teacher who used to say there are two types of people those who have hemorrhoids and those who will get them. Take your time on the toilet.
Agree with everyone else. It’s embarrassing, but it’s not like you have to show them what’s going on. Just tell them you need to see a doctor for it.
If you’re really so uncomfortable telling them about this that you can’t bring yourself to do it, then you could try telling them “I need to see a doctor. It’s embarrassing, I don’t want to discuss it, I just need to make an appointment. I’ll handle the scheduling, I just need to know my insurance info* and a ride to the office”
*Or however that works where you are.
If you can reasonably do it, you may just be able to call and schedule it without their help.
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Don’t worry about being embarrassed. This is your health and it is important. You don’t want to let things like this go on too long.
What are your alternatives? Just keep quiet about it and live in discomfort and let it get worse? Or spend a few moments POSSIBLY feeling embarrassed and getting the help you need? I say “possibly” because I doubt your parents will let you feel that way about something that is medically bothering you like this. Good parents will care and do what they can to help you.
Go get yourself taken care of. This is important.
There are so many things parents worry about - is their kid doing okay in school, are they getting along with others, are they into drugs, are they pregnant/got someone pregnant, are they being peer-pressured into shoplifting or drinking or whatever.
This? This is absolutely not something a parent is going to get upset about, except for being concerned to your health, getting it fixed, and preventing it happening again. Talk to your parents.
I thought it’ll pass on it’s own but it hasn’t.
I had an internal one (no pain, lots of bleeding) within the last 2 years, went to see the doc at the 2 month mark. Was informed it usually takes up to 6 months to resolve. There’s a few more-drastic measures that can be performed to take care of it if it’s a significant health risk or doesn’t fade in that time period. Sorry for your pain and suffering, but other comments about Prep H, and your sitz baths, are good advice. Yes, they’re not so uncommon.
The sooner they know, the less embarrassing it’ll end up with frequent, painful trips to the bathroom. Just be up front.
Have you tried actual otc hemorrhoid cream?
Hemorrhoid are super common, like 50% of people will get them eventually. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
I guess you can continue waiting, but I bet eventually the pain will beat out the embarrassment. Why not shorten the ordeal?
I deal with anxiety a lot. Actually, recently diagnosed. I often find myself struggling to discuss difficult topics, too. Here’s what sometimes works for me.
You only have to be brave enough for as long as it takes to say what you need to say. After that, it’s over. Just figure out the quickest way to say it while still communicating effectively. Amp yourself up, spit it out, and it’s over.
It’s a funny subject too. Maybe try bringing it up as a half joke and be like “OK but now fr what am I supposed to do??”
