There exist relationships where needs are not communicated through fights but through speech. I’m implying she might have just told him about her emotional needs instead of blowin up on him when they weren’t met.
I’m going to make my own Boomer-esque gender observation here: people generally don’t like having the fact that they conform to a stereotype about their sex pointed out. This woman would probably not be laughing if she thought she fit the stereotype, and especially not if she had ever made herself vulnerable by explicitly admitting that.
This behavior isn’t exclusive to one sex, but I think it is stereotypically feminine. I (a heterosexual man) usually hear about it when heterosexual men give each other advice, and it’s presented as an irrational thing many women do which the men should learn to accommodate.
The fact that the stereotype exists (and both the man and the woman presumably know that it does) makes me perceive the comment in the OP as mocking or patronizing. The man’s intent could be to offend or perhaps to imply “I’m glad you don’t actually expect treatment like this,” but even that would offend many women. I don’t understand why you or the woman in the OP think it was said in good faith, because it’s something I would say myself only if I wanted to hurt the feelings of the woman I was speaking to so much that I was willing to sound sexist.
Sometimes the problem solving men jump to is annoying as shit. Like, I’m a man, and I want to complain about my cluster headaches. No I don’t need you to be the 20th person to tell me I just need to stay hydrated. No I would not like to hear your methods for dealing with migraines that are probably not real migraines. What I get are not migraines. They’re called suicide headaches for a reason.
Damn bro i know im late, but it sounds like you need to drink some H2O. You know the amount of water that you need to drink is half your weight in oz. And thats not including if you work and sweat.
So it sounds like a lot, but you only have to drink a gallon of water a day if you’re 250 lbs. A gallon sounds daunting, but once you get used to it you’ll be craving water.
Being topped off on fluids constantly is a life changer.
Edit: i dont get migraines, and i maybe have a headache one or two times a year. I eat a bit unhealthy, smoke, smoke, drink, rarely do drugs, but ive continued to drink so much water that even after turning 30 with such long abuse, i some how feel almost completely fine. Way better then most people i know.
Oh man. Few things piss my wife off more than suggesting her irrational behavior could be due to PMS. She gets it really bad, and she’s allowed to say that, but I’m not.
The stereotype isn’t that only women ever want sympathy, but rather that women generally want sympathy (rather than help) a lot more than men do, especially in situations where help appears to be fairly straightforward.
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There exist relationships where needs are not communicated through fights but through speech. I’m implying she might have just told him about her emotional needs instead of blowin up on him when they weren’t met.
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I’m going to make my own Boomer-esque gender observation here: people generally don’t like having the fact that they conform to a stereotype about their sex pointed out. This woman would probably not be laughing if she thought she fit the stereotype, and especially not if she had ever made herself vulnerable by explicitly admitting that.
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This behavior isn’t exclusive to one sex, but I think it is stereotypically feminine. I (a heterosexual man) usually hear about it when heterosexual men give each other advice, and it’s presented as an irrational thing many women do which the men should learn to accommodate.
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The fact that the stereotype exists (and both the man and the woman presumably know that it does) makes me perceive the comment in the OP as mocking or patronizing. The man’s intent could be to offend or perhaps to imply “I’m glad you don’t actually expect treatment like this,” but even that would offend many women. I don’t understand why you or the woman in the OP think it was said in good faith, because it’s something I would say myself only if I wanted to hurt the feelings of the woman I was speaking to so much that I was willing to sound sexist.
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Sometimes the problem solving men jump to is annoying as shit. Like, I’m a man, and I want to complain about my cluster headaches. No I don’t need you to be the 20th person to tell me I just need to stay hydrated. No I would not like to hear your methods for dealing with migraines that are probably not real migraines. What I get are not migraines. They’re called suicide headaches for a reason.
Damn bro i know im late, but it sounds like you need to drink some H2O. You know the amount of water that you need to drink is half your weight in oz. And thats not including if you work and sweat.
So it sounds like a lot, but you only have to drink a gallon of water a day if you’re 250 lbs. A gallon sounds daunting, but once you get used to it you’ll be craving water.
Being topped off on fluids constantly is a life changer.
Edit: i dont get migraines, and i maybe have a headache one or two times a year. I eat a bit unhealthy, smoke, smoke, drink, rarely do drugs, but ive continued to drink so much water that even after turning 30 with such long abuse, i some how feel almost completely fine. Way better then most people i know.
And the only difference, staying hydrated!
Oh man. Few things piss my wife off more than suggesting her irrational behavior could be due to PMS. She gets it really bad, and she’s allowed to say that, but I’m not.
What is the stereotype? Men should be allowed to have a feelings stage about stuff that goes wrong.
The stereotype isn’t that only women ever want sympathy, but rather that women generally want sympathy (rather than help) a lot more than men do, especially in situations where help appears to be fairly straightforward.
Are we sure she is laughing about this and not trying to “partner shame” him?