• @MTK@lemmy.world
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    753 months ago

    Ah yes, “cocksucker” as the first insult to come to mind, the sign of a good person

      • @MTK@lemmy.world
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        443 months ago

        It implies that for a man, sucking cock (a legitimate sexual act for any gender) is an insult because that would make him gay. So Homophobic.

        • Arthur Besse
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          3 months ago

          imo the pejorative connotation of that word, and homophobia generally, is ultimately rooted in misogyny

          "always has been" meme with "wait, it's all about maintaining the patriarchy?"

          • @abbotsbury@lemmy.world
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            183 months ago

            That’s still degrading to fellators.

            And idk if I’d say it’s a power thing, cocksuckers are the active participant in a blow job, and I’d say the submissive one is the one with their meat between a pair of teeth.

            • @BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee
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              63 months ago

              its still at the end of the day giving pleasure to another. giving the key word: power thing. its the same atmosphere as bootlicker

              • @papertowels@mander.xyz
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                If you think going down on someone is only a submissive act you haven’t gone down on someone long enough, or teased them enough.

              • @MTK@lemmy.world
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                Being submissive in sex can be expressed in a blowjob, but so can being dominant. Most sexual acts can be either dominant or submissive under the right context. For example a person can forcibly (consensually) throw the other person down, pin them to the floor and start going down on them while not letting them orgasm. Is the person being overpowered and forced to be frustrate by not orgasming the one in power?

                Your understanding of mutual respect and love is unhealthy if you compare going down on someone to bootlicking.

                  • @MTK@lemmy.world
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                    23 months ago

                    I think you are missing the point, which is that “cocksucker” should not be used as an insult because it’s homophobic. Even if you personally identify it as a power dynamic insult, it does not change the fact that it is rooted in homophobia and that the OOP most likely used it without any thought as to its meaning and history but rather it just came to him as a viable insult (internalized homophobia)

              • @Redfox8@mander.xyz
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                43 months ago

                So, if you were to replace ‘cocksucker’ with ‘towelhead’, slut, Yid, or Nig*** would that still just be a power thing?

                Not that it actually makes a difference. This ‘power thing’ you refer to is controlling abuse for self interest. Introducing a predudice is just a way of trying to justify and/or hide the abuse.

                • KillingTimeItself
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                  13 months ago

                  im sorry are we equating cocksucker, and the n word to be on the same level of offensive slur?

                  • @Redfox8@mander.xyz
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                    23 months ago

                    No, the discussion was not about whether different words were of equal or differing offensiveness. My discussion is about what saying ‘it’s a power thing’ actually means and how it relates to abusive behaviour.

              • @abbotsbury@lemmy.world
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                43 months ago

                Okay but like, in regular penis-in-vagina sex, the man is (theoretically) giving pleasure to the woman while also doing all the work. Is that still power play? Is pussyfucker the same as cocksucker?

                • KillingTimeItself
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                  13 months ago

                  i mean yeah, pussyfucker if you used as an insult would be quite a weird insult to throw, but it would work i suppose.

                  Motherfucker is also in the same vein like the other commenter suggested.

                • @BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee
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                  13 months ago

                  pussyfucker isnt an insult ive ever heard but motherfucker is

                  cocksucker reminds me of the prison mentality of making someone your bitch so thats where im getting the power play from

                  • @abbotsbury@lemmy.world
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                    33 months ago

                    Exactly, pussyfucker isn’t an insult because traditionally there was nothing wrong with fucking pussy, but calling someone a cocksucker is implying they’re either gay or a woman

            • KillingTimeItself
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              13 months ago

              find me people who suck cock that actually give a fuck about other people calling people cocksuckers and we can talk.

              And idk if I’d say it’s a power thing, cocksuckers are the active participant in a blow job, and I’d say the submissive one is the one with their meat between a pair of teeth.

              nobody is arguing that sucking cock is submissive??? The argument is that being a cocksucker is a submissive thing.

              Or you trolling? Or are you actually serious?

          • @MTK@lemmy.world
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            43 months ago

            He could have also said “vaginalicker” but he didn’t, he used a well known homophobic slur. Also, if he wanted to say submissive he could have used well known submissive insults.

            • KillingTimeItself
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              13 months ago

              literally nobody says vaginalicker though? that’s just not the commonly understood variant of “cocksucker”

        • KillingTimeItself
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          13 months ago

          ok?

          So what if i just argued that “cocksucker” just meant that you would suck someones cock if you got you something. I.E. you’re easily bribed/manipulated. As far as i know, that’s how most people use it.

          That’s literally the implication like 99% of the time. If you wanted to insult someone for being gay, you would just call them a faggot or something lmao. No need to mince words at that point.

            • KillingTimeItself
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              13 months ago

              to be clear, the wiki page you explicitly linked literally say it has a historical connotation, and the primary example it lists is from checks notes 53 years ago.

              I’m going to hazard a guess that the sentiment has probably changed, a little bit. Since 1972. 1972 to be clear, was 8 years after the passing of the civil rights act. It’s a bit of a different time period now.

              anyway point is, i’m not convinced anybody cares about using this as a homophobic slur anymore.

              Sorry for the short temper, this thread has been too long and I already explained this on another comment.

              it’s whatever, that’s how the internet is lol. This thread has been more than amusing for me thus far.