I simply can’t imagine. I can see being homosexual, transsexual, bisexual, everything in between. I cannot see being nosexual. To me that’s like saying, “I don’t care to eat food.” Yes, I’ve always been a total slut.
Good thing we have them though! Just like any other sexuality that doesn’t reproduce, evolution gave some favor to those that could contribute to the tribe without the burden of child raising.
Are there people whom you look at, but don’t experience sexual attraction to?
Imagine that’s every person. No matter who they are or what they look like, they’re just… other humans. You never have any desire, nor need to be close with someone. That entire part of life just doesn’t exist.
Now imagine that every time you get turned on, it’s just the “physical” aspects. You feel the hormones, the need to release some tension. But it’s never tied to a particular person or body part.
The sensation is akin to being hungry, but not “in the mood” to eat anything
I should note, that this is just my personal experiences, and is not universal. Some aces still want romantic relationships (I don’t: aka aroace).
Also, some aces are “sex averse”, and can even find masturbation annoying or unpleasant in some way
Alternatively, some aces can have fetishes or reliable turn-on’s
Locker room talk doesn’t literally have to happen in a locker room, it’s just slang for talking about womens sex appeal whilst in a group of men without any women present
Now imagine that every time you get turned on, it’s just the “physical” aspects. You feel the hormones, the need to release some tension. But it’s never tied to a particular person or body part. The sensation is akin to being hungry, but not “in the mood” to eat anything
Thank you. This actually really cleared up the middle row of the comic for me.
Imagine a person you’re not attracted to. Not necessarily a person you dislike, just someone you’re not sexually attracted to. Now imagine you feel the same about every person. That’s it
There was an interesting podcast episodes recently about a marathon runner completely indifferent about food. Until he noticed a weirdly irresistable cookbook in a window of a shop…
What I will never get is a concept of gender. I never FELT like a certain gender, similar to how I don’t feel like a certain blood type. Both are just some attributes I was born with, without any strong feelings.
We, uh, reproduce just fine. Having few to no sexual urges is rather different from never having sex. Plenty of people eat even when they’re not hungry, or for reasons other than hinger.
Asexuality and sex-repulsion are orthogonal spectra.
Just like any other sexuality that doesn’t reproduce, evolution gave some favor to those that could contribute to the tribe without the burden of child raising.
Biologists have been pondering why homosexuality is so prevalent in the animal kingdom and their explanation for this is a positive evolutionary pressure that benefits the species.
So naturally:
The “gay uncle hypothesis” posits that people who themselves do not have children may nonetheless increase the prevalence of their family’s genes in future generations by providing resources (e.g., food, supervision, defense, shelter) to the offspring of their closest relatives.
Note that it’s only a hypothesis since the research hasn’t been conclusive.
“Gay uncle hypothosis” people that don’t reproduce increase the likely hood of children surviving, by providing resources to those they love that do reproduce.
There are people who don’t really enjoy food either. They might be fantasizing about replacing all eating with just taking a pill, or they might be soylent enthusiasts.
There are also people who don’t enjoy any music; misophonics.
And here I am, sex-repulsed asexual. The whole sex thing is just incredibly gross, and I’m taking this virginity to my grave (I’m 39, I’m over halfway there!) and no one can stop me. I’ve never even been sexually aroused at all.
Interestingly I can agree on the grossness of it, only when "the mood"™ arises a kind of nasty turns into attractively naughty. It’s a strange alteration. Like the new texture of a food you might find somewhat repulsive at first suddenly becomes highly addictive or desirable when you give in to it. The sleazy feeling of wanting to keep popping bubble wrap plastic without stopping.
This differs based on time, context (persons) and general mood.
I wonder if at a base level we have kind of the same attitude, but the hormonal alteration or lack thereof is what creates the differences and clouds my mind while yours stay sharp.
Being allosexual sounds exhausting. You get some kind of feels for a person just by looking at them? I can’t wrap my head around that. Or sex drives. I don’t mind participating, but I could live the rest of my life not having sex just like I could live the rest of my life not eating a specific kind of cereal.
To me sex is optional. I don’t usually even think about it unless our allo centered world forces me to.
I simply can’t imagine. I can see being homosexual, transsexual, bisexual, everything in between. I cannot see being nosexual. To me that’s like saying, “I don’t care to eat food.” Yes, I’ve always been a total slut.
Good thing we have them though! Just like any other sexuality that doesn’t reproduce, evolution gave some favor to those that could contribute to the tribe without the burden of child raising.
Are there people whom you look at, but don’t experience sexual attraction to?
Imagine that’s every person. No matter who they are or what they look like, they’re just… other humans. You never have any desire, nor need to be close with someone. That entire part of life just doesn’t exist.
Now imagine that every time you get turned on, it’s just the “physical” aspects. You feel the hormones, the need to release some tension. But it’s never tied to a particular person or body part.
The sensation is akin to being hungry, but not “in the mood” to eat anything
I should note, that this is just my personal experiences, and is not universal. Some aces still want romantic relationships (I don’t: aka aroace).
Also, some aces are “sex averse”, and can even find masturbation annoying or unpleasant in some way
Alternatively, some aces can have fetishes or reliable turn-on’s
You know, you’re totally right, we “do” need a term for always being hungry but never in the mood to eat anything.
Maybe you’re ahungry
sorry, I’ll see myself out
But we already have that? The term is “being hungry”. Hunger and appetite are 2 different things, that’s why we have 2 different words for them
What is something you wish normies stopped doing to you?
Mostly ask when I’m gonna get a girlfriend / married / or have kids
Although, most of the relatives have stopped asking, or just accepted that I’ll always be single
Also, boy “locker room” talk always made me uncomfortable
Thanks for indulging me. If I may? I’m not from the U.S., didn’t have locker rooms in schools. What is locker room talk?
Mostly boys admiring the boobs or butts of girls
Them: “Yo man, check out her ass… She’s so hot”
How i want to reply: “Yep, that’s a gluteus maximus, although I don’t see her sweating”
I think we can all do without inappropriate meddling into one another’s lives and objectifying. Thanks again.
Locker room talk doesn’t literally have to happen in a locker room, it’s just slang for talking about womens sex appeal whilst in a group of men without any women present
I’m not ace but I can’t stand that shit. Also the way men feel the need to subtlety bully each other as part of their friendship.
Thank you. This actually really cleared up the middle row of the comic for me.
Imagine a person you’re not attracted to. Not necessarily a person you dislike, just someone you’re not sexually attracted to. Now imagine you feel the same about every person. That’s it
That step 1 is the bit I have trouble with. I can picture people I don’t like who I don’t want sex with (though also some I do)
You really have no people you like but don’t want to have sex with? No one who’s like 8 or 80?
It really was a joke. I guess tone doesn’t carry over in text when one makes no attempt to show it
Think of some other animal then. Are you fond of anything but also don’t want to fuck them? The horny libido light just never turns on.
There was an interesting podcast episodes recently about a marathon runner completely indifferent about food. Until he noticed a weirdly irresistable cookbook in a window of a shop…
https://wondery.com/shows/mrballens-medical-mysteries/episode/14189-ep-64-no-reservationsthe-bitter-end/
spoiler
It was brain cancer
What I will never get is a concept of gender. I never FELT like a certain gender, similar to how I don’t feel like a certain blood type. Both are just some attributes I was born with, without any strong feelings.
I strongly feel like I’m O+, and there should not be any A or Bs in my public bathrooms!
We, uh, reproduce just fine. Having few to no sexual urges is rather different from never having sex. Plenty of people eat even when they’re not hungry, or for reasons other than hinger.
Asexuality and sex-repulsion are orthogonal spectra.
Contrary to crappy jokes on TV, most people (even men) aren’t thinking about sex 24/7
How does evolution come into play there?
Biologists have been pondering why homosexuality is so prevalent in the animal kingdom and their explanation for this is a positive evolutionary pressure that benefits the species.
So naturally:
Note that it’s only a hypothesis since the research hasn’t been conclusive.
Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation#General
“Gay uncle hypothosis” people that don’t reproduce increase the likely hood of children surviving, by providing resources to those they love that do reproduce.
There are people who don’t really enjoy food either. They might be fantasizing about replacing all eating with just taking a pill, or they might be soylent enthusiasts.
There are also people who don’t enjoy any music; misophonics.
And here I am, sex-repulsed asexual. The whole sex thing is just incredibly gross, and I’m taking this virginity to my grave (I’m 39, I’m over halfway there!) and no one can stop me. I’ve never even been sexually aroused at all.
Indeed, all types are present.
Interestingly I can agree on the grossness of it, only when "the mood"™ arises a kind of nasty turns into attractively naughty. It’s a strange alteration. Like the new texture of a food you might find somewhat repulsive at first suddenly becomes highly addictive or desirable when you give in to it. The sleazy feeling of wanting to keep popping bubble wrap plastic without stopping.
This differs based on time, context (persons) and general mood.
I wonder if at a base level we have kind of the same attitude, but the hormonal alteration or lack thereof is what creates the differences and clouds my mind while yours stay sharp.
I like dick, but I’m not that into sex tbf. Regular sex is just a task for me. But… since I’m a woman, once a month I get horny as fuck
Being allosexual sounds exhausting. You get some kind of feels for a person just by looking at them? I can’t wrap my head around that. Or sex drives. I don’t mind participating, but I could live the rest of my life not having sex just like I could live the rest of my life not eating a specific kind of cereal.
To me sex is optional. I don’t usually even think about it unless our allo centered world forces me to.
And here I am, both ace and hate eating.
Born too late to be a philosopher, born too early to become a robot