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@Ilflish@lemm.ee to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml • 2 years ago

Who cares about red flags in people. What are your green flags

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Who cares about red flags in people. What are your green flags

@Ilflish@lemm.ee to Asklemmy@lemmy.ml • 2 years ago
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  • @badelf@lemmy.ml
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    29•2 years ago

    Actually intelligent, reads books, sense of humor, actually listens.

    • @Mr_Blott@lemmy.world
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      16•2 years ago

      I love my ereader but I miss the days when you could actually see what someone was reading. It was like a book recommending a person

      • @Death_Equity@lemmy.world
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        5•2 years ago

        Someone reading a book doesn’t mean the book is good.

        I have a book written by a mentally ill person I met, just because I wanted to have more insight into his mental state.

        • @Mr_Blott@lemmy.world
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          7•2 years ago
          • Comments about reading

          • Completely misreads my sentence

          😂

        • @badelf@lemmy.ml
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          1•2 years ago

          “good” book is highly subjective. It depends not only on your tastes but also on your general mood while reading it. Same for film and art. I saw the Mona Lisa in person and was completely unimpressed.

    • @MJBrune@beehaw.org
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      8•2 years ago

      How do you measure actually intelligent?

      • @mke_geek@lemm.ee
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        7•2 years ago

        It’s like art, you know it when you see it.

      • @Honytawk@lemmy.zip
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        6•2 years ago

        You don’t measure it. You compare it to your own intelligence and see if it matches.

      • @TheGreenGolem@lemm.ee
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        3•2 years ago

        When they say it. If somebody says “I’m very smart” or “I’m very intelligent”, you know the answer.

        • @kureta@lemmy.ml
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          4•2 years ago

          but what is the question?

          • @TheGreenGolem@lemm.ee
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            4•2 years ago

            Exactly!

      • @badelf@lemmy.ml
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        2•2 years ago

        Excellent question. For me, it has a lot to do with their sense of humor, general outlook, and their problem solving. ymmv

      • Anna
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        1•2 years ago

        Have you heard about IQ Test.

        • @Honytawk@lemmy.zip
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          7•2 years ago

          The flawed metric racists use to claim they are somehow superior?

          There is a reason why it isn’t standard practice and only covers certain topics. It can measure some general knowledge, but is in no way indictment to the actual intelligence of a person.

        • @shiveyarbles@beehaw.org
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          3•2 years ago

          No that’s dumb

        • adderaline
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          2•2 years ago

          somebody talking about their IQ would be a major red flag for me lol

          • Anna
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            0•2 years ago

            Is it OK if they mention that their IQ is less than 0 Kelvin.

            • adderaline
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              1•2 years ago

              deleted by creator

        • @homicidalrobot@lemm.ee
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          1•2 years ago

          Have YOU been on the mensa forums?

          • @badelf@lemmy.ml
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            1•2 years ago

            I’m theoretically Mensa qualified but when I met some I turned away. My sense of what’s fun and creative did not align. At all.

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