• @archonet@lemmy.world
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    822 years ago

    Dating is different for gay people? Since when? I’m gay and dating is a neverending slog of trying to find one decent functional adult in a sea of jackasses. How is this different?

    • @Saneless@lemmy.world
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      142 years ago

      Does one person in the relationship take forever to get ready or for 2 men do they just decide to go out and 3 minutes later leave the house?

      • @floofloof@lemmy.ca
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        132 years ago

        Is it supposed to be the woman who takes a long time? Because I’m a guy and she’s always waiting for me. Not proud of this, but these stereotypes really don’t help.

        • @Lemonparty@lemm.ee
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          142 years ago

          I lived with gay roommates (three gay men, two were a couple one was single), and the single one took AGES to get ready. I’m talking he’d shower at 730, we’d ask what he was doing and he’d say he had a date then leave the house at fucking 930.

          He didn’t wear make up or anything I have legitimately no fucking clue what he could’ve been doing for so long. The couple on the other hand, one took longer than the other but honestly they were both pretty fast get ready-ers.

          • Iapar
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            92 years ago

            He was jacking off so that he can longer. Oldest trick in the bock.

      • @FluffyPotato@lemm.ee
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        92 years ago

        Fuck that stereotype. I’m in a lesbian relationship and getting ready for either of us is putting on pants and possibly a jacket.

      • @Naz@sh.itjust.works
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        62 years ago

        I was in a gay relationship once and at like 9:00 at night my boyfriend turns to me and goes: “Do you want wings?!?”

        I’m a bit shocked by the random question but go: “Hell yeah!” We jumped into the car, went to the wings place which closes at 9:30 mind you, got there at around 9:16, including driving. Like 9:27-9:45-ish, we’re back and have a huge plate of wings and sides, just eating like animals

        So uh, it varies, but the possibility is definitely there for two men to have a tactical romantic excursion in record time XD

    • GladiusB
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      132 years ago

      Really? I have heard differently. I mean it’s true in the dating sense of searching for relationships. However if you are single I hear getting laid is waaaay easier. They just straight up ask and go. So I’m told. What the hell do I know?

      • vibinya
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        202 years ago

        It’s different in some ways. Most of my friends are gay and they have specific apps for specific things. It seems very straightforward to find people to hook up with, but that’s different than dating and looking for a relationship. Just like most people, many have various issues most likely stemming from society being lame about sexuality and such. They’ll find someone who seems entirely put together and then get slammed with issues relating to abandonment, insecurities about their masculinity, or crazy jealousy… So pretty much normal stuff.

        • @AstridWipenaugh@lemmy.world
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          132 years ago

          That last part happened to my cousin. He dated a guy for a few years and everyone liked him a lot. After they got married, he let all the crazy out and became mentally and physically abusive. It apparently started pretty much immediately after marriage, but it took several years before anyone found out what was happening.

          • @RoquetteQueen@slrpnk.net
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            32 years ago

            That’s pretty standard for any abusive relationship. The abuser usually waits until they feel like their partner can’t escape before they become awful.

      • mstrk
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        72 years ago

        However if you are single I hear getting laid is waaaay easier

        It depends on the country you live in, really. I understand where you’re coming from with this idea. In my home country, it appears that gay people are more open about their relationships than heterosexual people. It’s a conservative country on this topic, but once I started traveling the world, I’ve come to learn that it’s not the truth.

        • @Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works
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          12 years ago

          This comment is so open ended… how is it not the truth? It’s a comparison… so do gay people get laid less in other countries, or so straight people get laid more?