It’s just “muh parental rights” and people clinging onto their power over others.
Essentiallly, if you’re not excercising overt control over your children, then you’re showing to those children that do get that kind of overt control, that there’s an another way of life. You have to essentially micromanage your children’s life well into their adulthood, just because some scummy adults that managed to steer their children into unwanted relationships and/or shitty jobs, and you’d offend them for it.
I kind of got that kind of treatment when it comes to jobs. My stepmother really wanted me to have a “manly job” instead of becoming a programmer, because she was “concerned of me” that I will end up too weak, and also she hated working on computers because they crashed thus she believed they’re “just a fad” (until facebook came). All while being too disabled to do said jobs. Things that shouldn’t hurt at all are really painful for me, likely due to a mixture of pain hypersensitivity (due to then undiagnosed autism) and some skin/collagen condition. But all of these did not matter, because parents even have the right to make mistakes from time to time, and they can’t be right all the time unfortunately. Result: starting college with minimal programming knowledge, while others already dabbled into OOP by that time.
For the reactionary, a parent’s horrible mistake is million times more important than the child’s own will, that could sometimes even save them.
It’s just “muh parental rights” and people clinging onto their power over others.
Essentiallly, if you’re not excercising overt control over your children, then you’re showing to those children that do get that kind of overt control, that there’s an another way of life. You have to essentially micromanage your children’s life well into their adulthood, just because some scummy adults that managed to steer their children into unwanted relationships and/or shitty jobs, and you’d offend them for it.
I kind of got that kind of treatment when it comes to jobs. My stepmother really wanted me to have a “manly job” instead of becoming a programmer, because she was “concerned of me” that I will end up too weak, and also she hated working on computers because they crashed thus she believed they’re “just a fad” (until facebook came). All while being too disabled to do said jobs. Things that shouldn’t hurt at all are really painful for me, likely due to a mixture of pain hypersensitivity (due to then undiagnosed autism) and some skin/collagen condition. But all of these did not matter, because parents even have the right to make mistakes from time to time, and they can’t be right all the time unfortunately. Result: starting college with minimal programming knowledge, while others already dabbled into OOP by that time.
For the reactionary, a parent’s horrible mistake is million times more important than the child’s own will, that could sometimes even save them.