• @HikingVet@lemmy.ca
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        388 days ago

        Well, as a person with adhd and time on my hands because work is slow, I could use some reading materials.

        I believe talking about things that don’t often get mentioned is good. Even if it’s a terrible subject. As long as it’s handle respectfully.

        Also I’m aromantic asexual and not looking for smut.

        • @thevoidzero@lemmy.world
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          88 days ago

          Hi. I don’t have sources but I think it makes sense logically.

          Like if you’re a lesbian and want to be with someone in a society like the one where you can’t have lesbian relationship but a guy can have multiple wives, I think you’d get into the same harem. You’d consider the guy as a cost of being with the one you want.

          And maybe there are good guys too, and they just let you be there and live how you like. I don’t know how prominent arranged marriage is in those cultures, but some guys could be doing that and just sheltering people too.

          • dil
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            16 days ago

            eh I bet they’re all just bitter and don’t like each other and don’t look forward to sex lol

          • ikt
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            8 days ago

            I don’t have sources but I think it makes sense logically.

            pretty sure most women in a polygamy hate being in them, read more than a few articles about first wives then getting put aside for a younger model but they can’t leave because no money (based islam 🙄)

            • @thevoidzero@lemmy.world
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              38 days ago

              That’s most probably true for normal cases. I’m thinking of cases where women like other women. So they don’t want to be intimate with their husband anyway. So him losing interest would work great. So it’d be akin to living with a group of girls and an annoying guy who owns the place. Again I’m just making assumptions.

              • @angrystego@lemmy.world
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                38 days ago

                But the probability you get wed to a guy who sets you aside because bored and then marries your girlfriend out of pure respect to you is very low.