• lime!
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    1413 days ago

    i’ve never been able to pick up mannerisms from anyone.

    • spicy pancake
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      1413 days ago

      I have the opposite problem where I do it subconsciously and automatically. I match speech patterns and body language

      If I watch a show/movie with English spoken in a different accent to mine I have to consciously remember not to imitate that accent right after watching 🤦‍♀️

      anyone else got this problem? makes me feel crazy.

      • @shalafi@lemmy.world
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        813 days ago

        Same, but I only match real people, rarely pick up from fiction, well, not too much anyway, enough to get your drift.

        I credit my success in customer service, on the phone and IRL, with this trait. For example, if a customer is wired up and going 100mph, they don’t want some laid back or laconic dude seeming like he doesn’t share their urgency.

        Funny when I catch myself with the body language. Sometimes I look around and see others doing it. Sometimes I fuck with people and watch them imitate my body language. Did it with a date one time. Thought, “I think she’s actually into me! Let’s see.” LOL, had her crossing and uncrossing her legs, leaning forwards and back, stuff like that.

        tl;dr: I think it’s typical human behavior, helps us get along together.

      • lime!
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        613 days ago

        actually yes. i do this constantly. i just don’t manage to understand people through it. i just mindlessly copy.

        • spicy pancake
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          513 days ago

          I wonder if it’s a manifestation of some innate ND trait or some kinda coping mechanism developed in response to the “jUsT aCt NoRmAL,!!1!” everyone tries to hammer into us as kids 🫠

            • spicy pancake
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              513 days ago

              what the fuck!? this is normal!?

              that’s actually awesome thank you for sharing this i had no fuckin idea it was a documented normal human behavior

              • @Soggy@lemmy.world
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                112 days ago

                Yep, even neurotypicals do the thing where you subconsciously copy someone’s accent and they think you’re mocking them. A curse of social existence.

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          413 days ago

          lol i watch enough UK shows that i use English/Scottish phrases in my midwestern/appalachian yank accent and have actually gotten many a laugh out of this

          just yesterday: “why’s it absolutely: pissing rain?” (my sister lol’d)